Do you find you end up in similar dissatisfying relationships one after another? Or if you are in a relationship, end up in similar negative interactions over and over again?

Do you have similar thoughts about yourself that show up in lots of situations like work, relationships or life goals (e.g. I’m not good enough) but that seem to hold you back? You are not alone in your frustration.

The human brain is a very perceptive learning organ that remembers very well even if you consciously do not. A lot of current habits, thought patterns and automatic behavioral reactions are actually preserved responses to early notable experiences that the brain has marked as important. Some of these are remembered in a neutral way in the present but they are quite impactful in how you view the world and act.

Have you tried to create a new habit but despite your best efforts find it almost impossible? Sometimes you might be working against powerful early learning that is stronger than your will power in the present. What to do? In these instances simply talking about the present relationship to the issue is not enough to make the change, the brain is equipped to add learning but is slow to edit pre-existing learning.

However early learning is often from a time when a human was literally in a less developed phase (e.g. a child who does not have full brain development yet) or less sophisticated in their skills as a human. Enter EMDR. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (watch a video here). EMDR helps you reprocess these memories from your current capacity rather than that capacity of the time (e.g. often as a child) so that your current coping is from the “adult-you” rather than reactive from history.

EMDR for deep healing might be for you:

If you have felt frustrated by ending up in the same relationship but with different people over and over again with a similar disappointing outcomes.

If you find you end up in the same fights with your family, friends or romantic partner over and over again.

If you have been betrayed once or repeatedly by many different people and find that trauma hard to recover from.

If you find you are continually plagued by internal doubts (e.g. I’m not good enough, I will be abandoned, I’m trapped etc.) that complicate relationships or attainment of life goals.

If you find that you have a hard time taking meaningful action on life goals despite inner excitement, passion and desire to achieve.

If you are experiencing a constant hum of anxiety or depression under the surface and can’t shake it.

If you tried to force yourself into new habits both in thinking and behavior but find that they do not stick.

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Of course there are a lot of approaches beyond EMDR and I always work with each client to find what modalities and approaches will help them best. The modalities I use frequently are EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Schema Therapy, IFS Informed/Ego State Therapy (parts work), Emotion Focused Therapy. I enjoy helping folks heal anxiety (generalized anxiety, relationship anxiety, fears/phobias, OCD), sadness/depression (ongoing depression, grief/bereavement, ambiguous loss), trauma (neglect, painful childhood experiences, complex trauma; single incident trauma). Other areas of specialty include attachment related concerns, self esteem/self confidence/worth, addiction relapse prevention.

Let’s work together to reclaim a more satisfying life!